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Sexual Health Centre
Sexual Expression |
Sex and Childbirth
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Sometimes
women feel 'touched out' from holding and caring for their babies
all day.
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Sex During
Pregnancy
Most of the time it is perfectly
safe to have sex during pregnancy. If you have a high-risk
pregnancy, ask your doctor or other caregiver if it's safe.
Will you want to? Different
women have different feelings and your interest in sex may decline (or
grow). You and your partner will need to talk about what feels right to
you.
As your pregnancy advances,
intercourse may become uncomfortable. You may want to try other sexual
activities or explore new positions. Be creative and find what is right
for you.
Sex After
Giving Birth
The months after giving birth
are a challenging and tiring time. The demands of your new life may be a
more important limit on your sex life then any physical changes. Some couples
feel that sex is an important way to make time for each other; others would
rather take the time to talk and cuddle. Women may feel 'touched out' because
they spend so much of their time touching and holding their baby. Both parents
may feel overwhelmed by their new responsibilities. Take the time to talk
about your feelings and consider trying to find time for sex during the
day when you are less exhausted and sleepy.
Physically it is safe to have
sex after the lochia stops. Lochia is the vaginal bleeding that occurs
after delivery. This bleeding stops when the cervix has returned to its
natural size. Having sex before the lochia stops could put you at risk
of a serious infection.
Sex may be uncomfortable,
especially in the first weeks. You may have pain around an episiotomy
or Caesarean incision.
While scars are forming in these areas, try to use positions that don't
put pressure on the new tissue.
Vaginal dryness is also common
especially if you are breast-feeding.
The same hormones that prompt your body to produce milk also reduce your
ability to lubricate. A water-based lubricant
may help. Go slow and give your body more time to lubricate. The hormones
stimulated by orgasm also cause your breast milk to flow, so don't be
surprised if you need a towel.
If you don't want to get
pregnant again, birth control is
important.
Cervical barriers may have
to be re-sized before you can use them again. Talk to your doctor or
caregiver
about what forms of birth control are best for you. Hormonal methods
that do not contain estrogen like Depo
Provera (injections) and Micronor (pills) are safe for use once
breast feeding has been well established. Breast-feeding alone may help
to prevent pregnancy in the first six months as long
as your
period has not started again and this is the only way your baby is eating.
However breast-feeding as a mode of birth control is not completely
reliable.
To be more certain of avoiding pregnancy, you may wish to begin using
birth control again shortly after giving birth.
The hormonal changes after
pregnancy may affect some women's sexual desire. This is temporary. Talk
to your doctor if it feels like it has gone on for too long. This can
be one sign of post-partum
depression.
Some women may also be self-conscious
about their bodies after giving birth. It is important for your partner
to be loving and supportive about body image issues.
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